A woman I know, an extremely spiritual person, recently shared with me the following: ‘I used to have unfortunate beliefs about myself and I received back from external influences unfortunate results. When I decided to take control and raise my resonance, to be the change I wanted to become, to allow abundance and love come flow through me, absolutely everything fell into place. I am now living a life of leisure with a beautiful husband and I can draw what I want into my universe at will.’

What does it take to be magnetic? Can we really draw money, love or health simply by telling ourselves we are magnets for what we want?

We choose what we focus on in life. We choose to be miserable when it rains and happy when it’s sunny. Or we can appreciate the downpour as an opportunity to take care of indoor activities or to go splashing through puddles.

By putting our focus on good, we draw good to us. Conversely, by focusing on grief, we draw more to grieve. There’s absolutely a place for grief in our lives, I’m not suggesting otherwise, but we need to be mindful that we are not suffering over our own suffering and not continually drawing grief to us.

I overheard a girl in a caf telling her friend, ‘I’m a total freak magnet. I can’t leave my apartment without running into someone either clinically insane or whacked out on drugs or fanatical about some weirdness who wants to have extensive interaction with me.’

Her friend responded, ‘That’s strange. Your neighborhood is really nice. I can’t imagine there would be too many freaks around there.’

She responded, ‘I can’t figure it out. The freaks find me wherever I am. They just seem to be waiting for me to leave the apartment so they can scream in my face or get me to join their cult.’

What an awful thing for this girl, I thought to myself, to believe that she is a magnet for freaks, that no matter where she goes, she’s going to draw to her the lowest common denominator.

This is really how attraction works. What you think about yourself, you are. What you believe about the world, is your reality. What you speak, is your truth.

I was so tempted . . .  I wanted to tell her, ‘You’re programming yourself to be a freak magnet. You could just as easily be a money magnet . . .’, but I realized that my intrusion would only further her self-diagnosis. She’d completely misinterpret my attempt at kindness as just another freak, as in, ‘You wouldn’t believe the freak that came up to me in the cafe. . . He seemed normal, but. . . ‘

So whatever your beliefs are about the world, I implore you, take this freak’s advice and adjust it to bring you all that you ever wanted and not the lowest common denominator.